When I was younger it was easier to have girlfriends. Until boys entered the picture. In elementary I had a few girlfriends that were what we in the 21st century call "besties." Sarah Mollie and Bridgette. Sarah was the best of the best and we both wore plaid pants in fifth grade. When I moved to Mississippi girls didn't play pretend anymore and wore padded bras. Makeup was worn. Puberty sucks. I had one girl friend that stuck with me until highschool, we fought but mainly drew Neopets and talked to boys on AIM.
In high school I had a different best friend who stopped being so close after Hurricane Katrina. After Katrina, her boyfriend broke up with her because he liked me. I didn't know what to do and didn't understand dating, so I said I'd date him and was very confused when my girlfriend was upset. This was the beginning of the end. He and I didn't last long and I broke up with him over text message. It was somewhere around this time that I started wearing make up and styling my hair. People started being nicer to me and I wasn't a "geek" "dork" or "lame" anymore.
Basically it went down like it went down for all girls, I only had guy friends and all my female friends weren't close. Or maybe you had one close girlfriend but other than that girls were catty ass bitches who needed to be slapped. Sometimes you'd have a chick friend for a while and you guys would both bond over not being like other girls and how much other girls sucked. Then your relationship would combust in some passive aggressive explosion and you would never talk again.
It has something to do with girls finding all other girls to be competition, for what? Everything I guess. For guys attention. ALL guys attention. Every boy must like you and when they like another girl you get jealous and think that she must be prettier than you so you feel like shit and blame it on her. But really, all she is doing is trying to look her best because she also feels like shit for thinking that she is not pretty enough.
In my 21 years of life I've realized that there is some sort of thing involving "the human condition" that makes all girls insecure and so that makes all girls hate each other as a result of their insecurities. (I am no scientist)
I think a lot has to do with how we're kinda forced to measure our self worth via male attention. Attractiveness is such a big factor to attraction and studies have shown that prettier people to get better jobs, more opportunities, etc. Mix that with girls constantly being told they are not pretty enough with media and there you go. We, females, are just insecure wrecks.
I too am an insecure wreck.
I read Cosmo and wear make up, I go tanning occasionally, try to wear cute outfits. And I get jealous of prettier girls. It happens.
I wonder if really it has to do because instinctively we, girls, feel the need to make babies and keep them safe in a secure environment, preferably with a partner. So finding a partner is crucial to our basic instinct. For baby making and protection. While guys want to spread their seed everywhere as much as possible. So girls feel like they have to work very hard to find a man and keep her man because instinctively man will want to stray from this female to impregnate the next girl.
Basically we're all hopelessly fucked in my opinion and that's all bullshit.
There are a lot of mean ass "hoes" who have fucked me over in my life. I have a great talent at pissing girls off and making them jealous or angry or just plain crazy. But I'm not really mad at them because I don't know if it's really their fault. Like, I know a lot of girls who have been sexually or emotionally or physically abused.
Or girls who never had a good Dad and are desperate to have a supportive boyfriend. So on so forth. So when guys talk about how girls are all crazy bitches they are kinda right, but there are reasons.
Girls just need love. And I don't mean penises, just like. You know, LOVE. Romance, happiness, preferably bunnies in my opinion, or flowers. It's past Valentine's Day but people should still be in love and happy and NICE.
I encourage all females to try to befriend a girl and be honest with her. And never say shit like "I don't like girls" Fuck you, you are a girl, other girls are just like you, so shut up. (This is me being nice, lol) Maybe slightly less vulgar...
Do nice things for girlfriends like you would for any guy. It's not a big deal if she doesn't do something nice too. She's not walking all over you, I bet your dude friends don't reciprocate everything you do for them all the time. So it's whatever.
And when you do hang out with girls, do more than just get fucked up. I'm sure you do more than just get fucked up on the day to day right? And if you don't, shame on you get a hobby.
***Note*** This post is honestly not aimed towards anyone. I started it back in September and never finished it because I don't mean to be rude. All my gal friends basically have done as I described and I have too. So I'm not calling anyone out, or I'm calling everyone out.
**Another Note*** I have been sitting on this forever because I'm not completely happy with it, but I'm just going to post it.
